Wednesday, December 31, 2008

Jobs I could never do

Sorry for the delay in posts, but life was insanely busy the past few months, and the past few days I've just been lazy. In my travels to 9 states (13 if you include layovers) and 2 countries in the last two months I've come to realize several things. The first is I don't like traveling as much as I thought. Don't get me wrong, I still love traveling and there are so many places I would love to visit, but traveling for a job where you are somewhere different every week just isn't for me. And although I do much better on planes than my 6 foot 2 husband, flying gets old...especially when you don't have a window seat and there isn't much to see besides the seat in front of you.

The second thing I've realized. I've decided that I will never be able to be President of the USA or even any large company for that matter, I'll never be able to be Pope (for multiple reasons....), a successful moviestar or any other person that is under scrutiny more than most. For those of you who haven't been able to track the travels (which I'm sure is most considering Aaron often had no idea where I was going or when I'd be back...thank goodness for Google calendar) I spent mid October to mid November down in Dallas doing a Pediatric Emergency Room rotation at their huge children's hospital. While in Texas I had 3 residency interviews at Dallas, Austin and little middle of nowhere town in between them. On my way home I made a detour to Louisville Kentucky to attend an awesome global health missions conference, was in st louis for 12 hours and then flew to Seattle to interview at Univ of WA and hang out with my family for a few days. Home for a day, then flew to Arizona to see my ADORABLE one month old niece and get to be her sponsor with Aaron for her baptism. Back to STL for a few days for Thanksgiving and then Aaron and I drove up to Chicago to hang out with our wonderful friends Hannah and Landon for a day before I started my interview extravaganza: interviewing at four programs in four consecutive days. I think this is when I first began to realize I could never be President. Residency interviews are long...not just a couple hour deal, but more of a 7am to 3pm (or even 6pm) kinda thing normally with either a pre-interview dinner the night before or post-interview happy hour to talk to current residents in a less formal fashion. So basically for four straight days I had to be 'on'. Making sure I didn't say stupid things (though I'm pretty sure I did...multiple times), constantly smiling, thinking of intelligent questions to ask. And it was exhausting! I survived, but don't think I'd want to do it again (or wait, then I repeated the same thing the next week in Boston). It is important to always act in such a way that you represent yourself, your faith, your family, your school, your career or whatever well, but feeling like you have to be completely on your game at all times is just hard. I'm not cut out for it.

Anyways, after getting back from Chicago, home for about 4 days, then flew to Boston for another 3 interviews 3 consecutive days. Again....exhausting, but I did enjoy getting to tour around Boston a little bit as I've never been there but always had an odd obsession with it (maybe it is because I apparently had a very strong boston accent when I was 3, or maybe my obsession started in infancy and that is how it manifested at age 3?!?!). I was then home for another 3 days, a quick 2 day trip to interview at Emory in Atlanta, home for 2 days and then off to Mexico for Christmas vacation with my parents and sister and her husband. That traveling was definitely worth it!

Now I'm back, trying to get caught up on life, starting to think about how in the world to compare the programs I interviewed at way back in October and barely remember to those I was at a week and a half ago. I'm glad that the bulk of the traveling for residency is over. I made it through, saw some new places, got a lot of self-reflection time, and am glad that I did not previously have hopes of becoming president or pope or to become a successful actress (successful meaning those that don't make the front of the tabloids constantly because they're not 'on their game' a little too frequently), as those dreams would now be crushed. I guess a General Pediatrician will have to do, and I guess the last few months of craziness are worth it as they are part of the path I need to take to get there.

Sorry for such a long post of half thoughts/half update. Those of you who follow this can now know why Aaron was putting up so many pictures!

Wednesday, December 17, 2008

Takes a Rabbit's Touch


Takes a Rabit's Touch, originally uploaded by a b franzen.

Day 35 (kinda)
Since I technically did see you today, this one is more just for fun. And, since you wanted the picture anyways today, I am going to retain the focus.

Do you ever wonder what other people see when they look at you?

I do sometimes. Is what they see distorted? Do they really see me, or do they see some creatively constructed identity they have assigned to me? Or, just maybe, I am the one who sees it all distorted and interactions with those who really know me is what actually makes me me.

Thanks for being the best at minimizing the distortion.

Friday, December 12, 2008

Expectations Fall


Expectations Fall, originally uploaded by a b franzen.

Day 34
Is it just me or is everything/everyone more activist this year than usual? I think the words 'At the least' are missing from this.

I know the picture and the 'comment' are cheap and banal, but it is a good reflection of my life oftentimes without you around.

Hey, sometimes it is the cheese that makes it good...

Thursday, December 11, 2008

Matters to them


Matters to them, originally uploaded by a b franzen.

Day 33
I think a lot of the time it is not about the medals hanging on the wall, but it is about the drive to help someone else have walls to even put medals on. And that is something that all the Ivy in the world cannot provide.

To use Alli Roger's words again, "if the stars that shine are in any way a sign, then I think someone is out there puttin' up a fight." I am sure that in the midst of all the Ivy, a little light is a pleasant change of pace.

After all, the sand dollars need the stars that shine.

Wednesday, December 10, 2008

Glass Ceiling


Glass Ceiling, originally uploaded by a b franzen.

Day 32
It is time for pediatricians to be more bad-ass. Show Boston how we roll in the STL. Hope Harvard/BU had a warm welcome!

Tuesday, December 9, 2008

some pictures!

So I have been waiting until I got my camera cable (not happy to leave that behind!) back in the mail to put up some pics of where we have been lately...

First, the weekend before Thanksgiving we went down to Buckeye, AZ, to meet our new niece, Lucy, to whom we are also the godparents. It was really great to see her (she is so cute! and fat!, which helps the cuteness), and all the rest of the family. We have been waiting a while to see her. It was also great because the weather was shorts weather!




Then when we got back Sara had some interviews up in Chicago and I went up there with her for a few days over the weekend. It was really great because we were able to stay with Landon and Hannah. We really miss hanging out with them and so it was great to see them even if Sara had a lot going on and Landon had the GRE like a day or so after we left.


(sweet lens, by the way, Landon)


Next, and this is really exciting for me, we put up plastic over our windows this past weekend. We have really drafty windows here and I hated the idea that there were dollar bills flowing outside. It turned out really well though! Only one window has a little bit of slack in the plastic, but all of the other pretty much just look like another pane of glass. Hopefully now we can stay a little warmer and avoid sara's problem below... she was so cold when she was sorting some files that she was wearing her hood and had her gloves on, haha.

Friday, December 5, 2008

pinch of this and all of that

I picked up a book that Sara had around the house tonight and started to read it a little bit. The author is essentially reflecting on the correlation of the 'science' and other intellectualisms, and real life. We have allowed our world (or maybe just our culture) to become a largely atomistic world. That is, we break everything down into tiny, little, understandable parts. Molecules are not molecules, they are quarks and 'atomic glue,' wait quarks are not quarks they are.... well you get the idea. We break everything out of context and try to understand it as a stand alone entity. The family is not the family, it is a loose relation of people accidentally associated to one another in a continual fashion either by choice or ignorance.

People are no longer people. They are problems to be solved, 'issues' to deal with, mechanisms and machines to be used, or 'choices.' This next quote stuck out maybe just because I am a curmudgeon in regards to my current employment (I promise not every blog will be about that), but it has implications much beyond that as well. Wendell Berry says (in Life is a Miracle),

"I have read of Werner Heisenberg's principle that "Whenever one treats living organisms as physiochemical systems they must necessarily behave as such." I am not competent to have an opinion about the truth of that. I do feel able to say that whenever one treats living organisms as machines they must necessarily be perceived to behave as such. And I can see that the proposition is reversible: Whenever one perceives living organisms as machines they must necessarily be treated as such."

I think we would all do much better if we saw the things around us not as mechanical, controllable, and predictable. A lot of the time I think that has its beginnings in our relation to God first. We often think of him as 'good,' 'great,' 'powerful,' or any other common descriptor, just to the nth degree. We should, rather, see him not in a univocal sense (great, but to a huge degree), but in an anological sense (food is healthy and a person is healthy, not the same, but we understand some correlation). We know what 'good' means, and he is that, but in a sense that the language of 'good' is not necessasrily capable of encapsulating. Once we 'understand' our relation to the God of all, it is easier to understand our relation to all that is his. Well, maybe easy isn't the word, but at least the reduction of all seems harder to succomb to at that point.

Give Me a Hand


Give Me a Hand, originally uploaded by a b franzen.

A photographer's blog that I read from time to time had a post up of a 'thing' going around:

“It works like this: if you use Flickr, go to the sixth page of your photostream and pick the sixth picture there, then post it to your blog.”

Anyways, here is mine....

Wednesday, December 3, 2008

This Moment Keeps on Moving


This Moment Keeps on Moving, originally uploaded by a b franzen.

Day 31
I have been frustrated a lot lately, it seems. I did think that it was just because there was so much going on in our lives and too many things up in the air at once.

I was listening to a Jack Johnson song tonight and one line said, "Cause this moment keeps on moving... We were never meant to hold on."

Maybe I am too prone to hold on to the comfort of 'today' and not cling the the hope of 'tomorrow.' I don't think we talk often enough in the Church of the pain in hope; the pain in faith. He has provided in the past and will again, but somehow it all feels the same. Maybe that is just a deficiency on my part though... probably.

Hope you rocked the 'real' interview!

(Note for anyone elese: there is a quasi-good reason the house looked like this!!)

Friday, November 28, 2008

two quick thoughts

So tonight i was reading a little more from The Irresistible Revolution and I came across a great quote from and old Dutch pastor, Kaj Munk: "And remember the signs of the Christian Church have been the Lion, the Lamb, the Dove, and the Fish... but never the chameleon." Far too often the church is full of people like me that accept their daily life, then go home to their own home, insulated from everything in the world. Of course there are always the problems that come up in one's life, but what are the on-going problems in my life when set next to those of one who doesn't have a dinner on a regular basis?

Shane says that he is more afraid of the suburbs than he is of living in the city because the death of the comforted soul is much more of a danger there. I hear that, but at the same time, to stay in the city is to, in a weird way, seek comfort. To avoid the painful numb of comfort by staying out of the 'burbs is almost no different. To be fair, i don't think that is really what he meant, but that is what it made me think about. It is for that reason that, to the dismay of my wife, i almost feel like we should go to a suburban, 'comfortable' church. I think someone with strong thoughts should be there to jar them back out of the chameleon's skin. Now I would just need to find someone less 'chameleoned' than myself to do it. (sara...? ;)

The other thing I was thinking about is something that i really struggle with and think a lot about. i never know whether it falls into the complaining category or not, and so i very often don't say anything about it. I have a strong dislike for my current job. yes, the one that just cut me down to 20 hours a week and expect all the same work. Anyways, this one made me think of my not-really-that-bad-even-though-work-sucks situation:
"The world of efficiency and anonymity dehumanizes us. We see people as machines, as tractors, or as issues to protest. We live in an age when machines act like people, and people act like machines. But machines cannot love."

there really isn't too much different this year as compared to other years at work. but there are dollar bills floating in the air and hours are being cut like crazy. they dont care about the people who do whatever they can in order to keep some kind of a job, taking home a never-increasing slice of the big-time increasing profits. When they cut my hours, my manager says to me, 'you were able to do your job in less hours while you were in school, you should be able to do it now as well.' that's right, why allow people to work at just a speeding pace when we can have them work at break-neck pace? why think about the health and happiness of the workforce when there are more pennies to be gained? I have seen too many people there get fired and not told about it, waiting weeks at times for another schedule that will never come. how is that responsible? how does that help the company? that person? their family? society in general? all for another penny. yes, these are the same people that i weekly have to decide who gets a shift to pay for the electric bill. they will find out soon enough on their own, won't they? the lucky ones that do get told, and are let go for a specific reason are not told why, typically. Yep, why try and fulfill our duty to help them become a better person and employee? after all, it may take 5 more minutes. 1 more penny.

if you can't tell i am deeply cynical about them right now. I just hope that there are still companies out there that actually care about the people and not just the pennies. I hope it isn't, as they say at work, 'all about the bottom line.' (sure isn't my bottom line it is all about) ok - i will stop now....

Wednesday, November 26, 2008

family

Sara and i were able to go down to AZ over the past weekend to see the newest addition to the family. our niece and god-daughter, lucy jane, was much cutter (no matter how i spell that, it looks wrong) than i could have thought. I would have some pics up right now, but i had a minor disagreement with the computer that was holding them at the last minute. They should be here soon though, as long as my brother gets on his horse...

one thing i discovered over the weekend: something about being with my family makes me way more ornery and sarcastic than usual. at times i had a hard time keeping it in check... and self-control is not always a forte of mine. (i know to some of you the thought of me being more sarcastic than usual is a scary thing, and yes, it can be) anyways, it is past my bed time and i am in a generally frustrated mood, so i should go to bed. i hate applying for jobs!

Wednesday, November 19, 2008

Spring

I posted this on our "franzen family blog" but Aaron thought it should be posted here too, written Friday 11/13. I know we are leaving Fall and headed into Winter...don't worry, I haven't gotten confused. But the blog title instead refers to the Season of life I feel like I'm in. I'm at a Global Health Missions Conference right now. The first night after some worship, the leader started describing Summer and then told us to stand up if we felt that was the season that we felt currently described where we were at in life. Then we all prayed for those standing and went through fall, winter, and finally spring. I stood at Spring. Spring to me means new growth, the hope of warmth and blue skies and sun. At this conference and in the past month in Dallas as I've read some thought provoking books, had A LOT of alone time to think about life, God has really just been working on my heart. Overwhelming me with visions and dreams for the future, convicting me about not doing more to Live and Love for Christ right now. In my heart, Aaron and I's transient status in St Louis for another 6 months (and now currently the job situation), our long-term future post-residency and PhD schooling....there are so many tiny green buds sprouting up from the dirt and it is exciting. So many changes coming and new things to come. I'm not sure where these sprouts will go, what these changes will actually bring...i'm hoping they'll all turn into beautiful fields of wildflowers instead of being killed by a late frost, but life is exciting and its comforting to know God is with us whether the sprouts bloom or die. New growth of baby Lucy, of Adam getting awesome internship offers...I'm not sure if you're all in "spring" like I feel like right now, but it is kind of neat to think about what season of life we are in. How God's beauty and awesome creation of the seasons and the gorgeous landscapes that come with each one can really help us to reflect on where God has taken us, where we are currently, and the next seasons that will eventually come.

To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven:
A time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted;
A time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up;
A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance;
A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing;
A time to get, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away;
A time to rend, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak;
A time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war, and a time of peace.
Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 (cliche I know)

Tuesday, November 18, 2008

Wise Avenue


Wise Avenue, originally uploaded by a b franzen.

Day 30
So I was totally feeling like a slacker today and didn't have a picture, but found this one I took the other night.

Two totally random people came up to me to talk that night, that guy in the window being one of them. He said he has 'had that idea' a long time. After some casual conversation and asking about the camera he told me his story about the 'Laundry place' had better not show up in the Ney York Times.

I almost threw this pic and all the rest from that night out. Didn't think I liked them. Cold calls can be the same way. None seem to be worthwhile, but you go back and find that you not only like them, but that they can also be very meaningful.

At the very least they are interesting and there are still a lot of people out there that want to talk.

Action, not inaction

Last night I started to read one of Sara's new favorite books, The Irresistible Revolution, by Shane Claiborne. I wasn't even through the forward yet and something caught my eye. Earlier in the day I was reading The Weight of Glory, by C.S. Lewis, to get the brain juices flowing before the GRE, and a line from Wallis' forward made me think of Lewis. I think they are both onto something significant.

Wallis said, "Defining faith by the things you won't do or question does not create a compelling style of life." I am not sure the having a 'compelling style of life' is necessarily the goal, but by the rest of the forward, I am guessing he was just a little loose with words there. He is right I think; faith should maybe be defined primarily in the positive, that is, by the things we DO and not by the things we shouldn't do.

Lewis said that if you were to ask 20 good men what the highest virtue was, they would say 'unselfishness.' He says that this is a very different answer than the Great Christians of old, because they would have replied 'love.' He goes on to say, "the negative idea of Unselfishness carries with it the suggestion not primarily of securing good things for others, but of going without them ourselves, as if our abstinence and not their happiness was the important point." His point is that the good is likely not found in us going without, but is likely found in us indulging in the desires and dreams that God has put into us as His creation. That is where the good is found, and that is where true love for the other is found. Indeed, I think Lewis is dead on in saying that, "it would seem that Our Lord finds our desires not too strong, but too weak... We are far too easily pleased."

I hope that I live a life that reflects the fear of the Lord daily in all of my actions. I hope that I am never too easily pleased and that my faith life can be defined more by action than inaction. Seeing as I am only through the forward of this book, I am sure more thoughts are to follow.

Monday, November 17, 2008

In His Hands


In His Hands, originally uploaded by a b franzen.

Day 29
I think you are right. It is spring time.

I hope that we dream big and look for Him to live His dreams through us.

Sunday, November 16, 2008

New Blog!

So Sara and I have had a blog going for just our family, but figured there were a lot of things on there that we would like to share with all of our friends as well.  There are a ton of things going on in the next few months in our lives, so it is prime time for a blog to put it all in one place!  

Side note:  I think I am going to try and continue the photo project (the sara-left-me-all-alone-for-a-really-long-time project) for the rest of sara's trips too.  That is why there are a whole ton of posts from today (if you read this by a reader), because I put the whole last month's pics on here today.  Either way, Facebook only allows 60 photos per album, and this project may push the limits of that..... 

Away from it All


Away from it All, originally uploaded by a b franzen.

Day 28
So I did have something amazingly clever to say, but then I heard this song and it made me think of you...

"Saturday, 600 miles
lie between, the two of us
And telephones, they can't replace
Me with you, face to face."
- With You Tonight, Matt Wertz

See you tonight!

Tolerance for Pain


Tolerance for Pain, originally uploaded by a b franzen.

Day 27
Home stretch! [round one]

Whisper on the Wind


Whisper on the Wind, originally uploaded by a b franzen.

Day 26
"Cause it seems your heart is a part of mine
I’ve sorted through every word I know to use
And looked for beauty to define
I haven’t found what I want to say to you
But I’ll try for the rest of my life
Lets try for the rest of our lives"
- If I Ever, Alli Rogers

Contrasts and Parallels


Contrasts and Parallels, originally uploaded by a b franzen.

Day 23
Today I have been thinking a lot about contrasts and parallels.

Change is prominent on lips today it seems, but I am not sure I like recent changes. We may ask for it before, but when it comes, especially unexpectedly, rarely is there a line to welcome it; I know I didn't. In the end, it will work out I am sure.

Contrasts and parallels. This picture, recent political stuff, and recent life events made me think of that.

All You Have To Do


All You Have To Do, originally uploaded by a b franzen.

Day 24
It is funny how some things in life can be both empowering and imprisoning at the same time. Maybe the best position to be in is balanced in the middle. Or maybe the middle is more of a tension than a balance.

Time seems to be just such a thing.

A New Day


A New Day, originally uploaded by a b franzen.

Day 25
Alright, so here is my first attempt at an HDR image (not sure it came out so well). I am all about being open to new things as of late and I owed you a pic of my re-arranged corner anyways.

Marvelous Night for a Moondance

Day 22
But,

But Soon....


But Soon...., originally uploaded by a b franzen.

Day 21
What can I say.

I am on a marker kick.

All for What


All for What, originally uploaded by a b franzen.

Day 19
Some days it is thick and some days it is thin. Today was just the right ambivalent balance.

At least for three fourths of it.

Because You Are


Because You Are, originally uploaded by a b franzen.

Day 20
Because you are.

Bitter Sweet Melody


Bitter Sweet Melody, originally uploaded by a b franzen.

Day 17
Figured I would put this one up earlier...

I don't mind to vocab, but is more the idea of the whole thing I think. At least it has been nice out.

Lost the Buffer


Lost the Buffer, originally uploaded by a b franzen.

Day 18
Alright, everyone loves combo deals.

Confessions probably require divulging unknown stuff, but you already know this. I have a memory problem of sorts.

I know that white socks are never something that you wear with brown pants and birkenstocks, but I didn't have anything else clean. Keep forgetting to do the laundry.

I should not be allowed to cook alone. Multiple times now I have forgotten about something on the stove until it is close to the breaking point of edible and inedible.

Thanks for always helping me successfully survive life. It is probably easier when you are actually around, but that's alright.

While You Can


While You Can, originally uploaded by a b franzen.

Day 16
It has been so nice out lately. This is from the park that I was telling you about. I would say we should go there, but it will be pretty chilly soon and may not warm up by the time we be up and outta here! We can still go.

Old World Classics


Old World Classics, originally uploaded by a b franzen.

Day 14
Yes, Franzia, I do believe you are know for your Old World Classics!

I remember the first day my dad brought home wine that came in a bottle. It was called 'Fire Truck Red.' I didn't even know wine came in bottles! In an instant my world burst forth with endless, glorious possibility.

You are my life's 'bottle of wine.'

Worth Sayin'


Worth Sayin', originally uploaded by a b franzen.

Day 15

Unreality


Unreality, originally uploaded by a b franzen.

Day 10
Real and fake. Ideas, politics, 'truths,' unfounded expectations, and, well, blood. So frequent is the fake that some fake can appear more real than the real. Funny how that works.

Sorry for the gore today, but my finger made me think about that. It looked less real than the movies.

More than Other Days


More than Other Days, originally uploaded by a b franzen.

Day 11
Seemed like more than other days.

There is only one personal 'item' in my office. Even that is a relatively recent addition.

But I think you knew that.

This Moment


This Moment, originally uploaded by a b franzen.

Day 13
More times than not, it really 'cannot be determined from the information given.' Often I think that is intentional. It forces the outstretched hand, and I am glad that you are always there to hold the other one.

Funny. Today seemed to be so much less funky than yesterday.

Labor of Love


Labor of Love, originally uploaded by a b franzen.

Day 12
Yep, that is right. The buggers apparently are not pepper fans.

The Necessities and the Hopes

7th Day
Yep, it is that cold.

On another note, I know that is not where they normally are, but the pic was boring without them there.

One day they will be real ones when I make more than a middle-school paperboy. Maybe from Pikes Place. It would have to be a sweet deal though, to live there that is. You know how well the Favored Institution and I get along.

The Extent of It


The Extent of It, originally uploaded by a b franzen.

8th day
Somehow productivity rarely surfaces to the top of the list.

Look Both Ways


Look Both Ways, originally uploaded by a b franzen.

9th day
So yesterday when I came around the corner, a squirrel impetuously ran in from of me at the last moment.

I accidentally tired to miss him.

I thought of you right away. Synergy is not always what I think it should be. But then again, if it was, fewer amazing things would happen in my life.

Too Late


Too Late, originally uploaded by a b franzen.

5th day
Twice now I have had coffee too late. More than twice I have gone to bed too late, but only twice did I go to bed at a decent time unable to fall asleep.

Live and learn.

I am sure it will happen again.

Through the Glass Dimly


Through the Glass Dimly, originally uploaded by a b franzen.

6th Day
Inspired by the office story I was telling you.

Mark walked by me in the office today and eyed me up and down in surprise, I guess. I think he thought the 'bonus' did a lot.

I felt like telling him it was just too cold there for me, in more ways than one. I didn't though. Probably a good thing.

Sorry this is later than usual. Coe and I solved the world's existential problems.

Better Than Inside


Better Than Inside, originally uploaded by a b franzen.

4th day
Yep, it is back to that special time of year when it is warmer outside than it is in our house.

Wha'cha Have to Do


Wha'cha Have to Do, originally uploaded by a b franzen.

3rd day
'Do what you have to do so you can do what you want to do.'

The Great Debaters was a good movie.

It Happens


It Happens, originally uploaded by a b franzen.

2nd day

What? It'll happen...

Matter of Perspective


Matter of Perspective, originally uploaded by a b franzen.

1st day

I had never noticed how nice our hallway could be mid-day.